Individual Coaching

Individual coaching

Much of our lives is spent in our minds and in our interpretations of what is going on outside of us in the external world. These interpretations are neither wrong nor right, they are just interpretations based on our past experiences, expectations, hopes and fears – they are not truth or untruth. And they are sometimes more helpful and sometimes less. In individual coaching we take a look at these interpretations in the areas where we’re stuck, or in areas where we’d like to grow. Being able to step out of our interpretations to turn and look at them from the outside, as it were, offers a fresh view of our current situation. We step out to look at our perspective, as opposed to looking through our perspective. In doing this, we gain more objectivity and a more holistic understanding of ourselves and the world around us. We gain more clarity around our own thoughts, beliefs, and emotions and more understanding for others, and insight into the external situations and events around us.
This leads to better informed decisions and actions.
Learning that there are always more than one way of seeing things helps us to let go of positions, beliefs and behaviors that aren’t helping us reach our goals. This helps us in both our professional and private lives. Opening up to new ways of seeing things changes us fundamentally and helps us integrate more beneficially in the structures and systems around us, be they teams, families or communities – in short, in all relationships; particularly in our relationship with ourselves.


How can mindfulness help me?

Mindfulness helps you to manage stress, address conflict positively and will help you manage change – an ever increasing aspect of every life. In addition, mindfulness improves your ability to work with others – whether you are working in teams in your professional life or with friends and family in your private time. It will enhance your natural creativity and put you back in contact with your real emotions. Mindfulness improves leaderships skills and is the basis of communication. In short, there is not a single area of life that does not benefit from mindfulness.

Why are emotions so important? Do we 'need' emotions at work, too?

We can’t get rid of emotions – not even at the workplace, although many companies have tried to do just that.  Emotions are an integral part of being human and if repressed won’t just go away – much to the contrary, they will resurface – and repressed emotions can wreck havoc both on our mental and our physical states. So what to do with emotions – especially then, when we don’t seem to really have control over them, or they surface at the “wrong” moment. We can see our emotions as signals that we have needs that are or are not being met. Positive emotions surface when needs are being met and are generally not seen as a problem. Negative emotions however, are the ones we can really work with. These emotions give us insight into what is really going on inside us and others. Negative emotions arise when needs are not being met. These needs can be recognized or unrecognized. The most challenging needs are the unrecognized needs, because as the term suggests, these are the needs that we don’t even really know we have. They are the needs that have been buried under perhaps years of “ought to’s” “should’s” and “have to’s”. If they continue to go unrecognized and thus unfulfilled, they will continue to fester under the surface and continue to create the negative emotions that eventually can lead to serious mental and physical distress. So what to do with negative emotions? The best way of dealing with them is to see them as a distress signal from these unfulfilled needs. Getting to the underlying need instead of the emotion is then the best way to understand and work with the negative emotion.

Why are relationships so important?

Our relationships are the foundation of our lives. We stand in a relationship to each and every person we come into contact with. By the word “relationship“ we do not necessarily mean romantic relationships, but instead the way two or more people or things are connected. We do not exist in a vacuum, we are not alone – even those of us who feel very alone. We define ourselves, in essence, by the way we interact with other people and things and this interaction can be seen as our extended communication. This interaction, or communication, defines how we perceive ourselves and how we are perceived by others. This has a large influence on our success, happiness and overall satisfaction. The more we become aware of the condition of our relationships, the more aware we become of the way we communicate (interact). This gives us greater power over the events and happenings in our lives and thus a greater influence over the outcomes. Becoming mindful of our relationships helps us to become mindful of ourselves and all that which is happening around us.